No one wants to be the one who sounds ARROGANT OR BOASTFUL It's short distance between BOASTFUL and CONFIDENT. But, no one can read your mind. Mind-melding is only for Vulcans in Star Trek. You have to show them who you are. Using clear, concise, detailed, "you are right there with me" stories makes a memorable impression. Why do we remember Stories? How can you make your strengths into persuasive examples which become memorable and get you hired?
But how do you talk about yourself with confidence? You can always psyche yourself up and Find yourself a theme song and ace that interview
Really though, how can YOU talk about YOURSELF? Here are three ways:
1. Hard Work. You can say that you work really hard to attain those results, hone those skills or achieve those strengths. No problem. Hard work affects results. So, if you really work hard and are diligent and responsible and your hard work pays off, they would likely want you at their school, their employment or as a winner of their scholarship!
2. Good Fortune. You were lucky. If you say that you maximized the opportunity, by placing yourself at the right place and time, with the preparation necessary, so much the better. It shows maturity to acknowledge that you can prepare for good fortune. Giving credit to chance or serendipity exhibits modesty. Many people are born with good fortune and privilege; acknowledge if you were so blessed- you can still take credit for making the best of the good hand dealt to you.
3. Your Friends Tell You or Third-Party Endorsement. Certain personal characteristics are best shown through the eyes of others. If one of your strengths is that you are an empathetic listener, it isn't that convincing or credible for you to say so. But if your friends tell you that they appreciate how you really listen to their problems and stay "with them" making them feel valued, then, you are showing the interviewer through the testimony of others that you are an empathetic listener.
So if you present your accomplishments, character and strengths using one of the three options above, it is highly unlikely that you will be perceived as BOASTING . The interviewer will become your advocate, because you have showed your best self with CONFIDENCE.
To learn more tips and techniques for better communication results, please contact Making Conversation at www.makingconversation.com. Peggy Wallace, Making Conversation LLC. (www.makingconversation.com) can improve your communication skills and enhance your interview preparation.
Present your best self by being authentic and enthusiastically showing your own unique personality; open doors by winning with words.
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Be authentically yourself. Establish rapport. Making Conversation can assist you to develop responses which are thought out ahead of time, not the "automatic” or “right" response, but your personal best answer. If you communicate effectively with confidence and ease, your answers will persuade the interviewer to become your advocate.
Author Bio: Peggy Wallace's Making Conversation offers group and private conversational skills sessions as well as private interview preparation, with videotaped interview practice. Interview prep for college, jobs and scholarships assists you in developing clear, concise, persuasive and relevant personal stories which exhibit your individual strengths. Peggy is a graduate of University of Pennsylvania/Wharton School and Boston University School of Law. Peggy was a regional alumna volunteer interviewer for undergraduate admissions to Penn/Wharton for over 25 years. Peggy's business experience includes corporate attorney, fundraiser and financial services sales consultant.
